Expat Life

Visa Heartache

I’m about to become a massive Debbie Downer. Are you ready for it?

Usually I’m upbeat, positive and dare I say, funny? But if I’m going to be honest anywhere it should be online to a bunch of strangers, right? This Wednesday I feel only anger and frustration. I was finally feeling upbeat and positive about the Visa process. My biometrics appointment was scheduled for Thursday and that’s the last thing we had to do before I mailed in my application. I had made photocopies of everything, sorted everything, labeled it by sections and made damn table-of-contents for every single section!

(This is all the forms and documents we’ve acquired that I have to mail after my biometrics are taken.)
But tonight, as I was reviewing our papers one last time I realized that there was a mistake on the financial part of our application. Hopefully Sam’s accountant can fix it. If she can fix it, we’ll move my biometrics appointment to a different date. (End of next week at best.)
However, if it cannot be fixed my visa application will be refused. Which means Sam and I will then have two options.
A) Wait until next April to re-apply for my UK visa.
B) Sam will immigrate to America, which neither of us really wants. Both of our chosen careers are in the UK. Besides the fact that I do not qualify to sponsor a partner in America since I haven’t had a job for the last tax year (I was a student.) So at best Sam *may* be able to reside in the US before New Year. But I again repeat, this is not what we want.
We’ve had our lives planned together and its disgusting that one piece of paper can ruin that. I’ll wait for him in any country, no matter how long it takes but I can’t imagine being transatlantic long-distance for another year. Especially with out 7 hour time difference. I literally CAN NOT understand how people in both the US and UK can complain about how easy it is to become an immigrant. You think immigration is easy? Well bless your heart, I guess you’ve never tried.
The only blessing is that I caught the mistake before we mailed in the application. Otherwise it would have been refused and I would have spent $2000 for an agent in the UK to tell me that I am not allowed to live with Sam.
I’ve spent most of the night crying. All my emotions are exacerbated by the fact that I just want Sam here to give me a hug and tell me that everything will be alright. I’m trying to focus all my psychic energy on Sam’s accountant, desperately hoping she can help us out of this hole and get our application back on track.
I usually hate public pleas for pity. On facebook I hate when people post “poor me” statuses. Which probably makes me a dirty hypocrite because right now I am begging for prayers, well-wishes, and if anyone else has undergone this situation before-advice.
End of my pitiful rant. I apologize. Hopefully we will get some good news today and I can go back to my regularly scheduled happy posts!

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  • Cocalores

    Oh no, that sucks! All that paperwork is really ridiculous! But I’m sure that the accountant will be able to fix it, after all, it should not be because of one document that your visa is denied! =) Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

    • Thanks! Much appreciated! It looks like things have taken a turn for the worse but trying to stay optimistic! xx

  • Sending you love, hugs, and well wishes!

    Yaya xx

  • Maggie

    I am so sorry, love. That is so frustrating, and don’t feel at all bad for sharing your frustration with others.
    I will be sending all of my prayers and thoughts your was. I am so glad that you caught it before you sent in all of those papers.
    I hope things turn out okay.

    • Thanks lady friend. Hopefully Thursday will bring better news! xx

  • Rachael

    Ah that sucks – i’m sorry to hear that. I know what you mean about when people, or at least easily the media complain that its easy to be an immigrant, I know it’s not. I have other issues with the UK for their immigration policies which, pretty much means I’ll probably never be able to move back with my US husband because we won’t be rich enough but that’s my rant for another day.

    Hope everything works out in the end.

    • Money is the issue we are having right now. Our gross net profit meets the maintenance funds level, but after you subtract personal allowance when you pay your taxes it makes our taxable income below the maintenance level. So what counts, income taxable or gross net profit? Its all a bit convoluted and 2 immigration lawyers have given us 2 different answers…..

      Since I was living in the UK with him on student visa I haven’t been back in the uS long enough to sponsor him here. Plus we have our lives in the UK so moving to the US was never really an option.

      Hopefully we’ll get some good news soon. xx

  • Kerry Enos

    Glad you caught it before you sent it out so you won’t have to be denied and wait longer. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for everthing to work out how you want it! Hugs!

    • Thank you so much Kerry. Things aren’t looking up yet today but Thursday’s another day. Hopefully it will bring better news. xx

  • Sorry to hear, Amanda. I really hope Sam’s accountant takes care of it for you guys and everything works out. All the best! <3

    • Thanks Alex. It’s not looking good today, but Thursday is always another day! xx

  • Little Spoon

    Same problem, different country (although with less heart achey type consequences) We’re applying for our Angolan visas and keep hitting brick wall after brick wall. Every time I think we’re nearly there, something else comes up. That said, we are together waiting to travel together, so although I share your frustrations I totally feel that your situation must be so much harder to deal with. Hope it can be resolved easily and quickly 🙂

    • Good luck with your visa as well! If my UK visa doesn’t get approved then because of Sam’s job, we won’t see each other again until at least November when he can start applying for a US visa instead. I can’t really stomach the idea of not living with my spouse for an entire year. This is why I’ve been so emotional about it. But tomorrow is another day and hopefully it will bring better news. Keep me updated on your process as well!!! xx

  • Another Clean Slate

    I thought this was going to be a post about the other kind of Visa- credit card! Hope everything works out! What a pain in the butt!!

    • Haha I wish it was just an issue with my Visa card. (ALthough weirdly I did have a problem with it on Monday!) xx

  • SugarFreeAsh

    So very frustrating! I hope it all turns around quickly for you! New follower here!

    • Thank you very much! xxx

  • Tami

    I am so sorry to hear this 🙁 sending thoughts and well-wishes your way. It will work out. It has to!

    • Thanks Tami. Tomorrow is another dat so hopefully everything turns around soon 🙂 xx

  • Oh sweet Amanda, I’m at the verge of tears for you. You have got to be so stressed out…dont worry about crying. I am crossing my fingers and toes and praying that everything just works out. Also if you cannot talk about your stresses in your blog, what good is a blog for? Totally okay to admit you frustrated with life. I really really really hope everything works out sooner then later!

    Rooting for you guys in this Visa fiasco.

    Bonnie Rose | A Compass Rose

  • Ruth Cataldo

    I fully understand your pain of going through the visa process! I am from the UK but living in California. I just (finally!!) completed my green card process so am a Official Legal US Resident for the first time in 6 years….before then I had been staying here on various B1 visas, all of which were temporary, meant I could earn no money and made me generally feel in limbo. It’s a horrible process which makes you feel vulnerable and like you have done something wrong ALL THE TIME. It WILL work out in the end….but the process is very stressful and irritating and expensive!