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An Averagely Long Engagement

This weekend Sam and I celebrated our engagement anniversary. But sadly, except to go to work on Saturday, I’ve been so struck down with a terrible cold that I’ve been barely able to drag myself out of bed for the past 4 days. We haven’t been able to celebrate the way that we would have wanted to, but instead Sam has been feeding me goodness, vitamins and handing me tissues. 

He also kindly wrote this blog post for me, detailing his side of popping the question. My story has already been told, so it’s only fair that he gets his chance. 

Take it away, Sam! 
at great fosters
Having a good time at Great Fosters, unaware that soon we’d be engaged.

Amanda agreed to be my wife a year ago yesterday so I thought I would share some memories of that brilliant day.To be honest, and not to hoot my own horn, but I knew she was going to say yes. I knew this because she had waged a low-level intimidation campaign against me for the previous year, including tactics such as sending me text messages using emoticons and question marks. Subtle, right? I didn’t need pressuring: I knew I wanted her to be my wife, I just wanted it to be as perfect as possible, so to do this I needed to throw her off the scent…

Amanda wanted to wear her grandma’s engagement ring so, thanks to her Mum, I had this shipped across from the US in secret. The weekend before Valentine’s Day I booked us a room at a swish hotel in Surrey called Great Fosters. As a jobbing actor, my hotel budget can usually only stretch as far a Travelodge, but we went all-out on this one and got a suite that was bigger (and nicer) than our flat. Amanda sensed that the game was afoot, so how could I keep it as a surprise?

Whenever we go away Amanda insists on doing all the packing, even though I believe my packing skills are unrivalled. I knew that if I tried to sneak the ring into our luggage that she would find it, like a bloodhound on a mission. There was only one place I knew she wouldn’t look: in my dirty, smelly walking boots! I secured the ring at the toe-end of my left boot – it was in a box though, don’t worry, I’m not that gross – and she went nowhere near it. When we unpacked and she saw no ring I saw a moment of dismay flash over her face, but only for a second because we were still together in this amazing place.

As we had walked the grounds in the afternoon I had spotted the perfect place to do the deed: on a beautiful wooden bridge by a lake at the back of the hotel. Before dinner I lured her outside under the pretence of wanting to take a moonlit photo of the hotel. She wasn’t happy. In fact she was fairly grumpy about it because it was freezing.

That’s when I did it – surprise! 

Even though I was confident of a positive response, I was so, so nervous before asking her. It’s all a blur now, but apparently I got all serious, gripping her by her elbows and asked her straight out. I’m not even sure if she actually said yes, all I can remember is a phenomenon we now refer to as The Cry Bomb: as soon as the words came out of my mouth, Amanda exploded into tears. I’ve never seen anything like it. It was amazing!

It was a brilliant moment that I’ll never forget. We went for dinner afterwards and I announced our news to our fellow guests in the restaurant, much to Amanda’s embarrassment. They whooped, applauded and toasted us!

What a night. Thanks for saying yes, Amanda!

immediately engagement
Blurry excited selfie almost immediately after. 

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  • What a sweetly told story…. good one on Sam for conspiring to get the engagement ring from the U.S.! Ohh and the cry bomb. I loved everything about this :))
    We were engaged a fairly long term (1.5 years!) so much that we celebrated our “minus one wedding anniversary”, haha. Having all that time to plan can be really nice sometimes if you’re not too anxious to just get it over with.

    • We’ll be engaged for about 1.5 years by the time the wedding rolls around. I think that’s the way to do it because it really cuts down on stress! x

  • This is the cutest thing ever! Totally cheered up my stormy Monday morning 🙂
    Sophie Cliff

  • Such a sweet story! I also insist on doing all packing which both my mom and mother in law find weird but I just need to know everything is packed and properly!

    • I need to know that we have everything and that it’s neatly. As much as Sam thinks he’s a good packer…. he’s not. xx

  • lovely post!

  • Awe this is so sweet! Feel better Amanda!

  • I read the original version of this story last year, and reading it from the other side just makes it more perfect. Sam is so lovely and you are so lucky!
    We celebrated our 12 year anniversary on Friday without an engagement ring in sight 😉

    • Happy 12 years you two! That’s an amazing milestone! I hope you have many more happy decades ahead of you! xxxx

  • This is so sweet! Sam should get an award for all his efforts to keep it a secret 😀

    • He really should! Especially because he’s usually not very good at keeping secrets from me! xx

  • Aw, that is so cute reading his side of the story! Congrats again (and feel better soon)!

  • Hahahaha. Very sweet (and hilarious, as Sam’s posts tend to be). Proposing when you were at your grumpiest was a stroke of genius. “Surprise!” XD

    • Hahaha. At the time, I was just thinking” why the eff are we outside in the freezing cold at night?!?!” and then it all became worth it! xx

  • Christine Everyday

    Awww, I love him getting to tell his side. So cute!

  • Aww, this is so sweet and lovely. I love hearing a guy’s side of the story.

    Lisa | Not Quite Enough

  • well told, Sam! my husband lured me outside on the premise of walking his dog across our college campus to a special spot. I was totally grumpy, then surprised, and then so shocked I don’t really remember it happening! we were engaged for a bit over 2 years. hope you’re feeling better soon.

    • I’m exactly the same way! I can’t really remember the details because it was all so crazy! xx

  • this’s so sweet! 🙂 xxx

  • Ala

    You guys!!! Such a lovely story, well done Sam!!! x

  • Miu

    Get well soon, Amanda!
    It was nice reading about the engagement from the other point of view 🙂

  • What a lovely post! I love when Sam writes 🙂 And that announcement in the restaurant made me smile – a proud man clearly! Congrats again to you both!xx

    • Thanks Camila! I great pretty self-conscious sometimes, but I was too overjoyed to be embarrassed this time 😉 xx

  • Jenn Sie
  • So sweet for Sam to write his POV on your engagement! Congrats on one year since saying YES! <3

    • Thanks Brita! Sam is definitely always up for helping when I need an extra hand around here, which is just one of many things that I appreciate about him!